Top 10 ways to keep your girl ‘Happy’

Sometime back I read this post in another blog. Really interesting. And I think all the points mentioned are correct ;). Be sure to read the original post. I am posting only an excerpt here. The complete post is really worth the time :).  Check it out…

… I am not offering the much awaited answer to any of you. But I can try telling you a few things that guys do right. A few gestures that touch a womans heart and makes her a happy person. Here I go:

  • Don’t try to solve her problems. She doesn’t need you to tell her what is right and what is wrong. She is smart enough to decide that for herself unless she did ask you to make the decision. What she needs is someone to be able to talk to! She needs to know that you care enough to sit through a whole session of her woes. What matters to her is not how aptly you got rid of her trouble but how patiently you listened to all that she had to say.
  • Say what you mean. Try your best not to bluff your girl. Most women are good at reading body language. They tend to easily detect a lie. Even if she doesnt let you know at the time… this little lie will act as the first seed of doubt in your relationship which can grow into something huge and ugly with time. Best is to create an atmosphere of openness with her so that it is easier for her to accept things that you would otherwise hide from her. Keeps your relationship a lot less uncomplicated.
  • Don’t make your fights a slanging match. Its very easy to lose your temper during an argument and get down to name calling. Words spoken at that moment can never be recalled and nor will they be forgotten by your girl, even though it may get rid of your pent up anger and frustrations momentarily. Thus its advisable to be careful not to say anything that might hurt her ’cause those are words she will bring up everytime she wants to earn a brownie point against you. Instead, sit it out. Talk only once you know she is done yelling. Say whatever you have to say slow but stern. Make sure you give her space to understand.
  • Encourage her. You are a lucky guy if your girl likes to dress up for you. If she is not one to dress up everyday, then know that she is taking a lot of pain just to make you proud. The least that you can do – give her a few words of encouragement. Thats all she wants. Even if you fail to realize that she has a new haircut, make sure you react as soon you are told. If you fail this one, the first thing that comes to her mind is that she is not appreciated and is being taken for granted. That’s one feeling no one likes.
  • Help her with chores. Theres nothing better than taking the load off her to make her feel she is appreciated. Be it helping her with her assignments or helping her make her presentations. Instead of leaving her to do the cooking, dishes and making the bed take it off her hands at times. Dont get her off and leave it just as it is ’cause that would just increase the burden. Don’t try to do it all by yourself either. Just do it once in a while to show her you care and that you know it is hard work. But do it yourself… don’t wait for her to come begging to you.
  • Be careful how you treat her. Make sure you don’t fail to introduce her to your family and friends as your girl friend / fiancee / wife. Also be careful that you treat her the same in front of your people like you do when you are alone with her. Don’t confuse her by being two different people. You might not feel the difference but she does. Make sure you include her in conversations and explain what she doesn’t understand or know about. You need to be especially caring to all her needs here ’cause it is your domain and she is the outsider. Don’t alienate her.
  • Don’t let your work come in between. Work is extremely important, but so is your relationship. Learn to balance the two. Don’t let her think your work is taking the place of the ‘other woman’ in your life. Talk to her about your work. Make her feel involved so she understands what you do and can appreciate it. Don’t make it the main conversation but encourage her to share her views. You will be surprised at some of the new ideas that you get. While you do that also remember that there should be a time when work-talk is taboo. Give yourselves space for conversations and recreation. Travel together. Go out in groups or just the two of you. Enjoy a meal together in the middle of the day or relax with a movie and a drink. These little Us-times can do wonders to a relationship.
  • Share your hobbies. Its very rare for a couple to share similar interests. You might be crazy about cricket while she totally detests it. She might just love to watch those mushy classics that makes you snore away to glory. Make deals. Manage to choose a movie that is a lot less mushy and one that both of you will like and watch it together and throw a match watching party where you invite all the guys and their partners. This way the women will entertain themselves while you guys are left to watch the match. Or you can try to coax her to don the war paint with you and your friends and hit the grounds for the sheer fun of screaming… she may like it after all. If nothing works, try not to let the match or movie come in between and do it simultaneously in two different rooms.
  • Don’t flirt with other women. If you don’t want trouble avoid this one. She may not be the one to mind like she tells you, or she may be the silent types. But the fight that you had a couple of nights later or the food that tasted like rubber clearly indicates that she DID mind then. No woman likes competetion and moreover for their own man. If you take the otherside and make her feel unwanted … you shall pay for the consequences.
  • Surprise her. What do I tell you about this one? Every one likes little surprizes. Be it in the form of diamonds or handpicked flowers. Be it a huge party or a little candle-light dinner for two. Don’t think about the cost … just be innovative. If you have dollars to spare nothing better than that. If not, dont worry ’cause like they say ‘its the feeling that matters’. If your girl really loves you she will be floored just by the gesture. Drag her to the terrace for a rain-dance session in the first rain, surprize her by returning for home early and doing what she loves to do for the rest of the evening, send her cards for no reason at all, leave her little notes… and millions of other things.

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  1. #1 by Vin on April 25, 2007 - 5:29 pm

    Really nice post. I realised mistakes I have been making.

  2. #2 by bilal on June 28, 2007 - 7:49 pm

    tell me some more ideas last days she is reading in my school in 8 class but she has left the school

  3. #3 by Dave on August 4, 2007 - 2:14 pm

    very nice advice. thank you. my girlfriend of 7 years broke up with me and i didn’t do some of these things. it’s probably my fault even though she told me that i didn’t do anything wring. i am wiling to change and be more mature. i hope she will decide to take me back.

  4. #4 by Gary on December 24, 2007 - 12:49 am

    Nice advice, maybe now I know how to control my relationship.

  5. #5 by JMG on January 5, 2008 - 5:14 am

    Keep in mind that you have to be original…a real problem for me. i suck and im way too corny any advice on that lmao. now im a pretty much good man by these guidelines shit i rode my fucking bike out two miles just to get her a bouquet of roses on sweetest day even when she wasnt my girl. mind you im young mind you…… but now that were dating idk i try to convey my feelings towards her but they always end up too corny and she doesn’t like it too much. any ideas people

  6. #6 by Raju on March 12, 2008 - 3:34 pm

    Very Informative, Thanks Dude

  7. #7 by nick on April 17, 2008 - 2:44 am

    my g/f git mad so i try to cheer her up she got mad at me i need help anyone

  8. #8 by kudzai on April 21, 2008 - 3:32 am

    thank you thats a brilliant advice keep on good works

  9. #9 by KRA on May 12, 2008 - 6:33 pm

    lol!

  10. #10 by rajat on June 4, 2008 - 8:02 pm

    yes yaar its all correct and applicable toooo
    thanx

  11. #11 by rajendra Parmanik on July 30, 2008 - 10:17 am

    Thanks !!! does it works for indian girls also.

  12. #12 by sam on August 14, 2008 - 1:10 pm

    i need more on my mail box nd like 2 shout wit u guys

  13. #13 by sam on August 14, 2008 - 1:11 pm

    i will like 2 sh out wit u guys

  14. #14 by jeremy on September 2, 2008 - 9:38 am

    hi my names jeremy johnstone . when thay sed love at first site thay ment it . bout 3weeks ago i met a gurl that was haveing a hard time with her ex and things that have hapend 2 her she askd me out and i was dam happy then 2 days later she hit a lil ruff spot . she sead she needs time to sort her shit out and was best if we just be mates . she sead she nt ready for a relationship at the moment and askd for me to whate . what i need hellp with is do i whate or was that her way of leaving me and how do i make her happy wen she is sad and walks a way . yes im only 19 bout the 3 weeks with her have ben fun i cant just let her go what do i do pleaz help she means alot

  15. #15 by ARAbed on September 8, 2008 - 5:00 am

    hi man i saw this page so nice . congratulation

  16. #16 by philip on October 27, 2008 - 8:41 am

    thx buddy but im still in depression i do all these things u tell but ….
    she not my gf she is my friend and i cant live widout her
    plz if u have any suggestin plz do give me

  17. #17 by Ela on January 1, 2009 - 3:38 am

    YOU FORGOT TO INCLUDE ANOTHER HINT

    INTRODUCE MORE AND MORE INTO YOUR FAMILY, WOMEN LOVES TO FEEL AS PART OF A WHOLE, AND MORE IF YOU INTRODUCE TO YOUR PAPA, MAMA, SON OR DAUGHTER,….

  18. #18 by dave on January 28, 2009 - 3:53 am

    hey man thanks alot my girl has been having some stage fright issues how should i help her

  19. #19 by Edi on March 13, 2009 - 5:25 pm

    The points are good and they will really help in building relationship.

  20. #20 by Vicente on April 10, 2009 - 4:57 am

    Thanks Man, This is some great advice I’m gonna keep this in mind while I try to make the most of my relationship.

  21. #21 by Yulian on May 29, 2009 - 1:34 am

    Thanks that’s really helps. But you see i really love her but i think i started wrong, first everything was fine then she had a birthday and i give her a chocolate,necklaces that you have to build your self and the she stopped looking at me like before. what i going to do ? please help me.(i am and she is in grade 8 in the same classroom )

  22. #22 by Yulian on May 29, 2009 - 1:37 am

    Thanks that’s really helps. But you see i really love her but i think i started wrong, first everything was fine then she had a birthday and i give her a chocolate,necklaces that you have to build it your self and then, she stopped looking at me like before. what i going to do ? please help me.(i am and she is in grade 8 in the same classroom )

  23. #23 by Yulian on May 29, 2009 - 1:39 am

    Thanks that’s really helps. But you see i really love her but i think i started wrong, first everything was fine, i even rode to her house that was like 20 minutes on a car but i rode my bike there, then she had a birthday and i give her a chocolate,necklaces that you have to build it your self and then, she stopped looking at me like before. what i going to do ? please help me.(i am and she is in grade 8 in the same classroom )

  24. #24 by Yulian on May 29, 2009 - 1:42 am

    oh ye then i stopped looking at her and started looking at another girl

  25. #25 by Annelle on June 19, 2009 - 5:50 am

    I am a girl from america, and i think this is great! but on the “encourage her” point, i think it is important to encourage your girl about things besides appearance. It is nice if a guy notices a haircut, but you feel more appreciated when a guy notices the work you do for him. compliment the cooking and cleaning, or whatever she does for you!

  26. #26 by Solo on June 19, 2009 - 9:00 am

    this is great

  27. #27 by Solo on June 19, 2009 - 9:10 am

    there is this girl love so much, and i also know that she love me but she did not want to open up to me.

    what do i do?

  28. #28 by john -chacha on July 3, 2009 - 8:25 am

    hi , guy i must appreciate that your are the best .first of all may you accept my special congratulation about good have done to advice people
    we have 2 know that love is the thing which can other people even be crazy coz of love with me loves me be half crazy.but everything in this world i just it like valueless.thank you a lot may god be with you forever.

  29. #29 by john -chacha on July 3, 2009 - 8:34 am

    hi , guy i must appreciate that your are the best .first of all may you accept my special congratulation about good have done to advice people
    we have 2 know that love is the thing which can make other people even be crazy coz of love with me loves me be half crazy.but everything in this world i just see it like valueless.thank you a lot may god be with you forever.

  30. #30 by thiyagu on July 18, 2009 - 3:00 pm

    yeah bro,really its nice to know abt our mistakes..we were in a small misunderstanding b4 i read this posting,after reading it i feel like giving up everything for her..really ur words mean a lot for me..thank u so much..

  31. #31 by Ron on October 4, 2009 - 2:13 am

    i think i am screwed

  32. #32 by abalo john on December 21, 2009 - 9:08 am

    yes…..a good step as been taking…….

  33. #33 by Ben on January 7, 2010 - 3:29 pm

    Hey guys,

    Not trying to say I can do it better than you guys but these points are really helpful, most girls aren’t materialistic and love the little things you do for them, just cuddling up on the sofa watching the TV and things like that are what most like best.
    They just love the time you spend with them, and to make them feel wanted, so don’t be embarrassed to hold hands or whatever in front of your friends, and when they ask, just say ‘that’s her’ you know, make her feel special. Also, many girls prefer you to say things that can’t contain sexual inuendo’s, so rather than saying you’re hot, try beautiful, and things like that, it made a big difference to my relationship, and I think I’m the luckiest guy alive.
    Hope this helps :)

  34. #34 by tod on March 10, 2010 - 9:39 pm

    A question comes here is why she has to fell that she’s not taken for granted but then she could take her man for granted(it could be inferred when it says don’t flirt with other chicks in front of her) It’s so unfair! i don’t say cheat on her or be unfaithful. what i’m saying is girls always like require special treatment and then when you do that they’d walk all over you. They manipulate you and just want to have a toy in their hands. this is my experience hope you people have had the opposite one.

  35. #35 by MNH on March 22, 2010 - 7:48 am

    Yeah thanks, i have Grilfriend and i wanted to make her happy and i care about her more than my self so i noted some of ur points but one u should tell others that never say lai to ur gril friend or wife when u say the truth she will understand u thanks

  36. #36 by Micheal Ryse on July 2, 2010 - 2:03 pm

    man thats real, i realy liked the notes

  37. #37 by tanuj on July 17, 2010 - 7:52 am

    thanks for ur lifetime tips of happines.
    i do have a girl friend named charu arora.
    i love her very much,i think these points r really good as i do follow some of points.

  38. #38 by charles lwanga nkuubi on July 30, 2010 - 10:45 pm

    this information here has some inspiration to those selfish guys iut their who think they are good husbands at home

  39. #39 by james hodgson on September 9, 2010 - 9:08 am

    i’m only 12 and i’ve got a girlfriend and i love her so much and she loves me. i just want to know how to keep it that way. i want to make her as happy as she can be. thanks 4 the advice btw, it really helped.

  40. #40 by shawn on February 6, 2011 - 10:10 am

    this really help me understand to keep the girl of my dreams. and thangs im doing roung. thank you

  41. #41 by Dhurba on May 25, 2011 - 6:32 pm

    I love one Colombian girl but I am from Nepal I doesn’t understand her language,she works with me her English is not to good how can I make her know that I love her

  42. #42 by Kei on August 25, 2011 - 10:31 am

    At first we use to av fun but nw she hardly gives time for that.what do i do?

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  44. #44 by Tinez on August 2, 2012 - 2:46 am

    Yeah, great advice.! Im gonna change..

  45. #45 by bob on December 16, 2012 - 3:30 am

    im only 13 but i guess this is ok

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